07.17.10

Society teaches us  we can only be  "truly beautiful" if we look like those waif-like creatures we see in magazine ads and on television everyday. I disagree. We need to toss those folks a cheeseburger and tell them to lighten up.

It's easy to get caught up in the hype we see and hear every day.  Advertisers want us to believe men don't want 'real' women, but would rather have these impossible fantasies of what is deemed to be uber sexy and smokin' hot. I would be lying not only to you, but also to myself to say there are not some men who do want this type of woman, but not everyone falls for the hype.

True beauty comes from within and from learning to be comfortable in your own skin. It doesn't matter if you're tall, short, fat, or thin. There are more varieties of people than there are flavors of ice cream.  We're all different and unique. That in itself is what makes us beautiful. But this philosophy is something you have to believe in yourself. No one can do it for you, nor can they simply tell you this and make you believe it.

I know it's difficult to wrap your mind around the idea that we're not all supposed to be 5'9", 120 lbs with perfect hair, a perfect complexion, perfect teeth...perfect everything. But I'm here to tell you, everyone finds fault with something about themselves. We all dream of perfection, but that's when reality really hits home. Nobody's perfect.

Our goal should be to strive to be the absolute best we can be with what we have to work with. Not everyone is meant to be a size 2, just like not everyone is meant to be a size 32. We all fall somewhere along a never ending spectrum. Stop hating yourself for what you're not and embrace yourself for what you are!

The sexiest quality a woman can have in her repertoire is confidence. I know some of you may be saying what?? But I can guarantee you, regardless of her size, a woman who is confident in the way she looks and carries herself, will demand and garner the attention of more than one man in the room.